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I loved this piece and your thoughtful perspective on it. The idea that support and autonomy can go hand in hand is really beautiful ❤️

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Thank you so much! It’s something I’ve learned from disability advocates. I wish it was a more mainstream idea!

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That’s such a lovely thing to think about. Thank you for sharing that!

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Heidi, this piece is so wonderful! I’m also someone who values independence and struggles to ask for help. I particularly connected with this part of your essay: “I've learned from the disability community that independence is an illusion. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and often what appears to be independence requires someone else's oppression or exploitation. The truth is we are all connected, and we all depend on each other for physical and emotional support, whether we acknowledge it or not.”

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Thank you, Anna!!! It felt really good to bring this topic into the light.

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Heidi!!! This is so great. Congrats on your essay! It's such a good reminder that we all need support.

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Thank you friend!!! It feels good to see my name on it!

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I bet!

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