I am on the 3rd chapter of Unfit Parent. Would love to chat after you’re done reading it. SO MANY THINGS on my mind, especially as I am navigating many as yet diagnosed physical health issues.
Also, thank you for the shout out for the guide to giving less Fs — I think that’s definitely relevant too! Deciding what scale you want to work on also means giving less Fs about the fact that you’re not working on some other scale that doesn’t serve you right now. Whether or not the people in your life back that or not. It’s your energy to use or not use — no one else’s.
Yes! I still feel like I’m figuring this out. I have spent the last few years getting used to a smaller version of success than I envisioned and seeing the benefits of that. But I don’t want to stop dreaming big entirely! I keep telling myself all of it is just for right now. It can always change as circumstances change.
I love what you have to say here about being intentional about scale in each creative season. And about honoring things like bringing small-c creativity to a daily routine. We talk about this in our perinatal grief groups — that you might want to plan a whole garden to honor your loss, but what if you started with just bringing awareness to your grief during your daily shower, or finding a moment each day to be held by the roots of a tree? This is very much like the art of tending creativity in the newborn days — when my husband and I would take turns making yogurt and granola bowls for each other while feeding the babe, and it was enough. It’s interesting and poetic to consider that small-c creativity during seasons of birth and seasons of death can feel so similar.
Oh wow! Such a deep observation. I’ve never noticed those parallels but I can see it now. I’m going to be thinking about this. I find the big/small thinking applies to rest and maybe healing in other ways. We think we are so exhausted that closing our eyes and breathing for one minute couldn’t possibly touch our exhaustion but it somehow does help a little when we give it a try.
Yes! I’ve been very tired during my meditation sits lately so your insight is highly relevant to my life, haha. And sometimes rest IS the part of the creative process we’re missing, no? That whole “got my best idea in the shower/after a good dream” thing. Losing leaves and resting in winter is just as much a part of being a plant as being in bloom is.
These dryer balls are so cute! You've inspired me to try maybe make some of my own. I keep losing mine :)
Thank you! It took us a few tries to get the hang of it but now they feel like an easy way to add a little craft project into the day.
I am on the 3rd chapter of Unfit Parent. Would love to chat after you’re done reading it. SO MANY THINGS on my mind, especially as I am navigating many as yet diagnosed physical health issues.
Yes! I’ll let you know when it comes in from my library. Glad you’re reading it too!
Also, thank you for the shout out for the guide to giving less Fs — I think that’s definitely relevant too! Deciding what scale you want to work on also means giving less Fs about the fact that you’re not working on some other scale that doesn’t serve you right now. Whether or not the people in your life back that or not. It’s your energy to use or not use — no one else’s.
Yes! I still feel like I’m figuring this out. I have spent the last few years getting used to a smaller version of success than I envisioned and seeing the benefits of that. But I don’t want to stop dreaming big entirely! I keep telling myself all of it is just for right now. It can always change as circumstances change.
I am right here with you in this place of tension! And I love that others in the Fs chat are too. It helps so much to not be alone in the inquiry.
I love what you have to say here about being intentional about scale in each creative season. And about honoring things like bringing small-c creativity to a daily routine. We talk about this in our perinatal grief groups — that you might want to plan a whole garden to honor your loss, but what if you started with just bringing awareness to your grief during your daily shower, or finding a moment each day to be held by the roots of a tree? This is very much like the art of tending creativity in the newborn days — when my husband and I would take turns making yogurt and granola bowls for each other while feeding the babe, and it was enough. It’s interesting and poetic to consider that small-c creativity during seasons of birth and seasons of death can feel so similar.
Oh wow! Such a deep observation. I’ve never noticed those parallels but I can see it now. I’m going to be thinking about this. I find the big/small thinking applies to rest and maybe healing in other ways. We think we are so exhausted that closing our eyes and breathing for one minute couldn’t possibly touch our exhaustion but it somehow does help a little when we give it a try.
Yes! I’ve been very tired during my meditation sits lately so your insight is highly relevant to my life, haha. And sometimes rest IS the part of the creative process we’re missing, no? That whole “got my best idea in the shower/after a good dream” thing. Losing leaves and resting in winter is just as much a part of being a plant as being in bloom is.
For sure!!💛